There are several practical considerations when you’re separating. Getting things organized will help you feel more in control of the situation and allow you, and your former partner, to focus on resolving important issues:
1. You might consider opening a new post office box and redirecting important mail, especially if you concerns that your spouse may be monitoring your mail for bank statements, letters from your lawyer, and so on.
2. Set up a separate email account and change passwords to any social media, internet banking and other accounts. Often spouses have joint accounts and can keep track of all on-line activity. This may have been appropropriate during the relationship, but not once you have decided to separate.
3. Ensure you have access to funds. You may need to open a new bank account or apply for a separate credit card. You may need to transfer some funds to the new account so that you can continue to pay your bills.
4. Remove from the home important documents (e.g. birth and marriage certificates, passports) somewhere safe. It’s a good idea to make copies.
5. If you feel you may need to leave the home (even temporarily), with limited notice, prepack an overnight bag for yourself and, if you have children, prepack some of their belongings as well.
6. When you do move out, take your personal items including medications and records, personal documents, and any other household contents you wish to keep, as getting them later may be more difficult than expected.
Think of ‘separation’ as a journey into uncharted territory; don’t start this journey without proper preparation and a plan. A family lawyer or a family mediator can help you develop your "plan" so that you know what to expect during this time of transition, stress and possibly, high-conflict.