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  • Deer Lake Law Group Lawyer & Notary Public, Real Estate, Wills and Estates, Incorporation, Family Law & Mediation Burnaby Law Office
  • Deer Lake Law Group Lawyer & Notary Public, Real Estate, Wills and Estates, Incorporation, Family Law & Mediation Burnaby Law Office
  • Deer Lake Law Group Lawyer & Notary Public, Real Estate, Wills and Estates, Incorporation, Family Law & Mediation Burnaby Law Office
  • Deer Lake Law Group Lawyer & Notary Public, Real Estate, Wills and Estates, Incorporation, Family Law & Mediation Burnaby Law Office

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Daniel Siegel

In a recent professional development course attended by Lisa Sirlin, Family Lawyer and Mediator at the Deer Lake Law Group, she was alerted to the concept of “Name it to Tame it”, and it resonated with her so much that she now incorporates this simple exercise into her mediation practice.

The theory, created by Dr. Daniel Siegel, goes something like this:

There is a neurological component to stress and anxiety. The executive part of the brain does not work when there are strong emotions in play. The result is akin to rational thought lockdown. How is one meant to work through conflict in this state of thoughtful paralysis?

In order to restore balance, it has been proven that if you take a step back and ‘name it’, for example: I am feeling threatened; scared; cornered; insecure - the executive part of the brain sifts through and categorizes your emotions. Yes, just by naming it!

When clients are stuck in emotions, there is no way forward. By recognizing this, pausing and identifying the emotion, clients will more easily reach their goal. The executive part of the brain must be fully engaged in order to reach a meaningful agreement in Mediation.  

 

child support reviewMost people contemplating the breakdown of relationship where children are involved will be at least somewhat familiar with the Child Support Guidelines. One commonly asked question is how to deal with the review of child support.
 
One of the lawyers at the Deer Lake Law Group was consulted by a parent who had raised a child for over 20 years, and received $200.00 per month in child support from the other parent.  
 
Unbeknownst to the recipient, the payor had been earning an income in excess of $80,000.00 per year for much of the child's life, and should have been paying $748.00 per month - as per the Guidelines. 
 
Although the payor ought to have been responsible and increased support voluntarily, this did not happen. In short, the recipient was underpaid by more than $20,000.00 (considering the last 3 years when child support was payable).
   
The Court will review child support, retroactively, but will limit the number of retroactive years, however; the Court, at its discretion, may choose not review retroactively at all, depending on the circumstances.  
 
The lesson is that child support should be reviewed annually by the recipient to ensure that the payor is paying the proper amount. The review can be as simple as collecting income information from the payor, and ensuring that the amount being paid complies with the Child Support Guidelines.
 
 

divorce status

Clients sometimes ask whether moving to another country would have an impact on the status of divorce.

If you have already started your divorce in BC before you moved to another country, you can check the status of your divorce application with your family lawyer or by contacting the Central Registry of Divorce Proceedings for Canada in Ottawa, Ontario.

Also, if you were married in BC and want to get a divorce while you are living in another country, you are not required to do your divorce in BC (just because you were married in BC), generally. 

As long as your divorce in the country in which you are living is valid, then it is also recognized in BC.  Even if you move back to BC in the future, the divorce will still be valid in BC.

 

 

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